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EPISODE 2: Why is emotional intelligence so hard?

Jan 18, 2024

Hey there, welcome to my podcast, "Ease Into Clarity." I'm Dr. Divi, a Family Doctor turned intuitive coach, and I'm excited to be your guide through the intricacies of mental, emotional, and spiritual techniques that can transform your everyday challenges. In this episode, let's dive into the profound world of emotions – a topic close to my heart. Join me as we explore the importance of emotional intelligence, understand why we tend to avoid our feelings, and discover the incredible benefits of embracing our emotional landscape.

The Importance of Emotional Intelligence:

Let's kick things off by talking about emotional intelligence, a topic that I find incredibly fascinating. Daniel Goleman's book, "Emotional Intelligence," is a game-changer, and his quote about emotional intelligence being the key to both personal and professional success really resonates with me. I'm sure we all want success in every area of our lives, and sometimes, the key isn't just climbing the traditional ladder but understanding and mastering our emotions.

Common Reasons We Avoid Feeling:

Now, let's explore together why, in this day and age, people still struggle with feeling their emotions. One of the common reasons is that we simply weren't taught how to. Think about it – if you're not taught to tie your shoes, how will you ever know? Another reason is societal discouragement, especially for men. The narrative that expressing emotions is a sign of weakness is pervasive, and it's time we challenge it. I've listed a few more reasons, like not knowing how to process emotions and the constant pursuit of fixing everything

Benefits of Embracing Emotions:

I want to share with you a list of benefits that I've personally experienced by embracing and feeling my emotions. From becoming a better manifestor to healing physical ailments and fostering gratitude and compassion, the positive outcomes of emotional intelligence are truly transformative. Our emotions hold the key to a joyful life, and acknowledging that is a powerful step forward.

Identifying Emotional Numbing Strategies:

As someone who has been on this emotional intelligence journey for about 25 to 30 years, I understand the various strategies we employ to numb ourselves to emotions. From constant distraction to substance use, these patterns can hinder our emotional awareness. Let's shed light on these strategies together.

Practical Steps to Start Feeling:

Now, I want to share some practical steps that have helped me on my journey to emotional intelligence. It all starts with slowing down, creating moments of stillness, and incorporating practices like belly breathing and regular emotional check-ins. These steps are like a roadmap, guiding us towards a deeper understanding of our emotional selves.

To wrap up, let's take a few minutes for a meditation. Join me in this experience of intentional breathwork and pauses, connecting with our emotions and experiencing the transformative power of stillness.